Ingenue Mom

(In a non-tantrum moment) We've reached that stage. Tantrum stage. What a hot mess. She's wonderful at the babysitter. The babysitter always comments on how laid-back and calm Isis is. She's wonderful around other people. If she's entertained or playing, she's just a perfect angel. But get her at home, with mom & dad, when something happens that she doesn't like or doesn't want, this crazy little monster erupts from my child. She'll scream & cry & throw herself back on the floor! She hits things or one of us. She pitches an absolute fit!  I've been talking to people & reading about ways to handle this. We have chosen the "no" and ignore route. I say "no fussing" really firm and ask her to "use her words." Sometimes she just needs help and she knows how to say "help." Sometimes she wants something, so I tell her the word and try to get her to do the sign language for "pl